To me, relationships are one of the most important parts of my life. My life is full of amazing people who have impacted and inspired me and shaped me to be who I am. Relationships are an ever changing aspect though, some people stay for a season and others stay for a lifetime, but regardless of the timeline, their impact is felt.
At this present moment the relationships that I value the most are those of my immediate family. Each of those relationships looks a little different and takes a lot of work, but each has had a huge impact on my life.
|My family: Husband Keven, and children: Abbey, Micah, and Ally|
My oldest daughter Abbey is showing me that as she grows up she will not only be my daughter, but also a friend. Abbey has challenged me to get rid of my yelling habit, although I'm not perfect at it, I've grown a lot in that area because of her. I've also learned the importance of teaching our kids how to say they're sorry, by modeling it for them.
My son Micah is teaching me how to loosen up a little. He reminds me that spontaneity still lives inside me and I'm not as far from my fun youthful days as I sometimes think. Micah teaches me the importance of dropping my "important things" to play, even for just a moment.
My youngest daughter Ally is reminding me how fast time goes. I can't hold on to time, I can't capture it into a jar, but I can embrace it. The days are going quicker with her then they did when Abbey was little. And when I look back it seems like so long ago when Abbey was as small as her.
The biggest challenge in having relationships with your family, is remembering that we have a relationship with our kids. It's not just a "I'm the mom and you're the kid" atmosphere, but our kids change us and we change them. We are making a larger impact on them based on how we view our relationship with them. We need to treat them with respect and teach them what it means to have a relationship with someone else. By modeling positive interactions with them we are teaching way more than what we could ever say.
We need to recognize that each person in our relationship sphere is different. They have a different love language, a different mode of giving and receiving love then maybe we do. They have different needs to be met and expectations of what your role is in their life. But when we realize that and embrace those factors, our relationships will be fuller, healthier, and happier, especially when those relationships fall in our immediate family.